(I created soul-nourishing intimacy & loving safe relationships, built a business that feels like freedom, feel alive & inspired & creative & on purpose even on my worst days, choose how I spend my time) after…

I started getting radically honest with myself about the unconscious patterns that I was playing into that were not a match for who & where I wanted to be.

So that I could choose different. So that I could actually change. Not just so I could say I was a conscious person be I see things differently now… while still playing out the same patterns.

Everything you dream of lives on the other side of you getting… brutally, painfully, savagely, beautifully, lovingly honest with YOU.

Not through shame. Shame = taking on the *identity* of being a bad/wrong thing. It’s a toxic and unproductive emotional experience that has also totally lost the plot of duality.

But sometimes through guilt. Guilt is a healthy, productive emotional experience.

Feeling bad about a thing you said/did because it’s out of alignment with who you want to be is… correct.

Catching a behavior that’s actually a kink in the chain of your embodiment, feeling the ick just enough to set a boundary with You/build a higher standard for Self so that you can Choose anew and start embodying your next level.

Embodiment = when what you think, feel, say, do are THE SAME. Congruence.

So yeah, that time you put your work off for “tomorrow” and then the next day feel guilty…

Don’t shove that one down or justify it. Own it. Let it fuel better behavior in the future.

The time you were reactive and projected your emotions all over your partner, making a level 3 moment out to be a 9…

Own that shittttt.

Don’t make YOU bad or wrong for it.

Hold the duality of inner Self talk that is both… “oh sweet honey, you’re doing the best you can, your unconscious shit makes sense”… AND… “you are dropping your standards and selling yourself out and hurting you & your loved ones in the process, we’re not normalizing that, do better”

Both are forms of love.

Both are most useful together.

Most “conscious people” take the former way too far and most “ambitious people” take the latter way too far… let’s neutralize that by holding It All. 🥰

In the name of Self Mastery 🥂

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